Shame in Conflict

Starts
Friday, May 29, 2020
03:00 pm
Europe/Berlin
Ends
Monday, June 01, 2020
End Time
2:00 pm
Format
In person
Address

Zentrum GFK Steyerberg e.V.
Ginsterweg 3
31595 Steyerberg
Germany

Main Topic
Relationships / Intimacy
Short description
The Workshop will be in English with translation into German.
„Never do anything to avoid shame.“ (Marshall B. Rosenberg) This expression might seem absurd at first. Until we understand that our feelings of shame are a valuable indication of important human needs that we are struggling to meet. When we are in conflict, we refrain from asking for help in resolving it. Conflict is often seen as something we “should” be ashamed about being part of, a sign of failure. We will use the Compass of Needs, that Liv has put together for that purpose, as well as other tools based on Nonviolent Communication.
Offered by
English
Additional Languages
Deutsch
Contact Email
[email protected]
Contact Phone Number
05764941432
Description

„Never do anything to avoid shame.“ (Marshall B. Rosenberg) This expression might seem absurd at first. Until we understand that our feelings of shame are a valuable indication of important human needs that we are struggling to meet. When we are in conflict, we refrain from asking for help in resolving it. Conflict is often seen as something we “should” be ashamed about being part of, a sign of failure. At least we should be able to deal with ourselves. The shame might be so big that people don’t ask for support, even if they trust that help from the outside could provide solutions to the conflict. In this training we will explore shame in order to support both ourselves and others with shameful conflicts.
We will use the Compass of Needs, that Liv has put together for that purpose, as well as other tools based on Nonviolent Communication. We will practice, through exercises and role-play how to handle shame in ourselves and others. The aim is to transform shame in order to reclaim power, choice, vulnerability and empathy.
A perfect training for anyone facing conflict in their life and work; coaches, counselors, NVC-trainers, and mediators.

What can you expect from the training?

– Bigger understanding shame and its effects on communication and conflict

– Tools to handle shame avoidance reactions: Withdrawal, Rebellion, Self-attack/guilt, Anger

– Practice in how to deal with others shame when they are in conflict

– Dealing with own shame (shame of not being able to attract and connect with people, being a perfectionist, over-achieving etc)

– Dealing with our own shame (in connection to others wanting your support in a conflict about shameful matter, shame over not succeeding, being successful etc.)

– Exercises to deepen one’s own vulnerability and authenticity, especially in conflict.

– Work on practical examples of the participants 

The seminar will be held in English and translated into German.

As prerequisites for participation, we would like you to have basic knowledge of Nonviolent communication.

Listen to  Liv speaking on Shame in an interview: https://discomfortable.net/liv-larsson/