Last year my daughter had a psychotic episode which was precipitated by sleep deprivation, demands put on her by a disorganised, unempathetic university system, a lovely but damaged boyfriend, and constant low level anxiety. The professionals administered medication without monitoring or therapy which my daughter refused to take. i realised that if I could control my panic, as I knew her story better than most, then I stood some chance of helping her.
I came across your book and NVC made complete sense to me. Our family philosophy had been about putting others first and yet never recognised that we needed to look after ourselves to be strong enough to help others. Life brings constant conflict and this was acute in our family because of the multi-cultural nature of it.
Your book and another 'Back to Sanity' by Steve Taylor (with similar thinking to your own), gave me confidence that I can live the rest of my life to the full as I now understand that as long as we know which direction we are heading then enjoying the journey is good enough. Connecting with that truth generates the most amazing feeling in spite of what is going on around me and with practice can be sustainable.
My daughter's illness was an extreme manifestation of what I believe is endemic in our society. Labelling, and the fear of being differ is preventing society from recognising the full enormity of this problem. NVC provides a great deal of optimism and a solution which leads the way forward to creating a happier world. With the strength inside us and with mindfulness, it is possible to find a truly contented life which can work in harmony with all those around us. Please accept my warmest regards and appreciation,
p.s. I wondered if you have any writings on the anthropological research that helped you formulate your thinking on NVC - I hope one day they will be published as I would love to read it.